First tournament

[jubaji]

so your saying you cant give it 100% calmly and relaxed. maybe you "experienced" Bjj guys learn some taiji, or is that to pussy for you experienced tough guys,,

Well, it looks like you've had loads of experience in competition...

[OmaPlata]

IF youre not agressive and attacking and looking for the submission or the dominant position, then the other guy is doing it to you and youre on the defensive. you have to take the other guy off his game plan, make him defend and think about anything other than how to submit you. You can do this relaxed and controlled, not in a panic like the original poster was opined to not do.

[aseepish]

so your saying you cant give it 100% calmly and relaxed. maybe you "experienced" Bjj guys learn some taiji, or is that to pussy for you experienced tough guys,

A lot of the top BJJ guys do yoga. Almost every BJJ club I've ever trained in also offered yoga classes.