How to control your skill

[GrdStorm]

Ok let me describe the situation.

Me and my friends we are hanging out in the basement of my old HS (they still go to the HS I am visiting).


(only citing this situation to describe my fits of anger)
My friend takes my chair and I try to force him out of it. The last time I saw them I was a lot weaker and I had no MA experience. Since then I've done a lot of grappling/boxing and kickboxing. First it was harmless but it turned into a stupid teenage game of. Anyway I could get him off the chair even after I flipped the chair up, side headlocked him. My other friends were getting excited and calling me a "loser" because I couldn't get him off the chair. So I got really pissed and I guillotined him and put in in my guard. My friend who was in the guilottine sounded really scared an told me to get off of him. Now i know I would have choked him out but I came back to reality and I released the hold. I seem to get a lot of fits of rage like that.

I know its really immature and childish but it happens to me. A lot of people I used to hang out with a lot don't take me seriously and try to pick on me. When I beat their ass they get really scared and pissed. I get the "rage" (what I call my sudden bursts of pure anger). This all happened after I started studying martial arts.

Do you guys see this as a problem??? I only rage when I get pushed.

Also there is this kid that wanted to fight me a while back. Well it never happened but he likes to talk shit a lot. Anyway it doesn't bother me at all but I saw this kid a couple weeks ago and at that time my eyes got all glossy and I was literally going to kill him and his friends. To further add to my rage, one of my friends was telling me "oh yeah he can fight, he can fight" implying that he can **** me up.

I know most of u guys this that being a man is to walk away which I do agree with but where I live, pride and face means a lot. I normally do nothing when stupid shit happens but I know one day I'm gonig to snap and I'm going to hurt someone.

Does anyone have similar experiences or is it just me? maybe I'm really sick in the head or something.

[crazyjoe380]

foo just today my friend sucker punched my other homie for no reason over stupid s.hit. it's on you.. if you know your friends dont know shit it's not cool to practice your moves on em.. just so you wont feel like a bully you should try to attempt that with someone with skills that way they have a chance and u can test yourself but i know how it is people talking crap.. you just wanna..


pow!! to the moon alice!

[StraightBlaster]

Grdstorm,

I used to have a similar problem when I started martial arts. It went away after a few years. Right around the time I started hard core sparring. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but maybe you just need to get your butt kicked in the ring a couple times to put things in perspective. Full contact sparring can change things for people thier first few times.

[MrPoopy]

That used to happen to me. Especially when my bosses at work tried to give me a hard time. They are all old and out of shape and I could handle them easy. But after a while it goes away.

[mushinmaster]

Used to have a big temper problem - not anymore. Goes away with time and training I think. If you know you could cave someone's face in with one punch, you get a little hesitant to even joke around.

Try that full contact sparring on for size. Give you a chance to see first hand what damage you're capable of doing to someone with pads who knows what they are doing, then think about your "friend"...

Try just letting go sometimes. You didn't really need that chair, you don't really need face - and face and pride do not need to be so connected. Pride is internal, face is external. You need to weigh them out - see what's worth more to you. Good luck.

[Edge]

How to control your skill

GrdStorm: I feel you have a reasonable control of your skill, you didn't choke out or snap your friends neck. I feel you have an anger control/rage control issue. find your self a couple of hobbies. One physical one not so physical. Your hobbies may help apease/ calm you & help control your anger/rage. I also agree with some of the others who said to spar full contact. Spar with people of = or more advanced skill than yourself. Best of Luck -Edge-

[Maui Jim]

Anger

Some people can get addicted to the adrenalin rush more then anything else and time and improvement in your skills will make you think a bit like a paramedic who sees how easy people hurt them self and take care and look ahead.
Mind***
What your use to in a model to inspired your character development, anger can be a powerful trait picked up similar to a sponge from infancy and calmness may not be as familiar as anger was and seemed quite normal.
Body***
Body temperature can add to anger, hot foods and such, try cooler foods, melons, strawberries, cooler meats like pork, lamb
Chemical***
Low serotonin levels, causing anger , depression...abandonment. (get checked if you have insurance)
We Americans also can miss out on the eastern way of thinking calmness and humility and dropping the ego history .
Getting your ass kicked with or without lifetime scars will speed up the process too.
When the day comes you doubt your ability because of age and your not felling indestructible any more can bring on a need for wanting calmness and a sweet-stomach over the adrenals getting worked over, speeding up your last breath .
You'll just find no use for it, (anger) or you'll grow old and nasty caring anger and a weapon to make the odds more even and sit in a cell at 60.
When your long term health is considered you let go more easily, but you have to pick the more meaningful wars (protecting, saving your own ass or someone's else's if it comes up) and skip the rest.
Anger will eat you up, 95% of our bodies problems comes from the digestion system, so anger has little place in making it sweet (no excessive acids)
Think of the folds of the brain similar to the folds of the colon, the brain is the parent and the stomach is the child, common sense over emotional reaction equals long life
Unfortunately we don't always want to see it early on.
My experience
Maui Jim

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