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[seppuku]

is there anyone here who used to use self harm to deal with stress? i cut myself for a while, im ok with that. its just about behind me now. ive replaced it with muay thai i guess... just wondering if anyone else here has done something similar?

[Derekwl]

I didnt personally, as I was too obsessed with swimming (now Muay Thai), which sky rocketed my self esteem. My best friend did though, until he started doing soccer, which changed his life. Its really impressive how you can admit it, I'm not sure if I'd be able to, but I think sports is the best cure for depression/cutting (unless its as a result of the sport, which I have seen too much ).

[seppuku]

Muay Thai is good for self esteem its true. but then a girl can come along and take your legs straight out from under you... that happened very recently to me. itll take me a while to find my feet again, in the meantime ive got thai.

depressed because of the sport? when it gets me down i just push myself into it harder... seems to work ok. as for admitting i did that, it doesnt bother me. noone else can see the scars so it doesnt matter. as long as i dont take a locknife to my arm again itll be ok. hope your friends ok now. soccer could do that yeah, tho never for me. i cant hit the ball well enough lol...

[EmptyneSs]

i used to be pretty self destructive when i was in highschool. i cut for a while. i really had no other outlet to release my stress, and had nowere to turn to for guidance, nobody to look up to. this happens to many kids, they just dont have anything better and dont have any guidance. luckily i started working out as a way to release stress and a way for me to involve myself in something more positive. it changed my life, and led me to become interested in martial arts. now i train and work out and get to hang out with people i have lots of respect for, people i can look up to when i feel like shit. this is one of the reasons i want to teach martial arts for a living. i want to be able to guide kids/people and show them a better way of coping with their feelings. many kids/people feel isolated and alone and dont have anywere to turn. so they end up feeling worse and becoming self destructive because they dont realize they can become apart of something better.

[Gunza Kicka]

to everyone--glad all u and your friends are better now and have found a release which boosts ur self esteem other than lower it i have to admit to doing it a while ago. main reason was a girl... but glad to be over that now and muay thai-ing away

[seppuku]

mine was over a girl. everything in my life that ever hurts comes from a girl.. always. im not sure i got better, just found somethign that hurt more i guess. the only thing that keeps me on my feet at the gym is self-hatred, sad tho that may be

[Hardball]

is there anyone here who used to use self harm to deal with stress? i cut myself for a while, im ok with that. its just about behind me now. ive replaced it with muay thai i guess... just wondering if anyone else here has done something similar?

I bang my head against oak trees but I'm trying to toughen up for head butts. Glad you're in martial arts.

[seppuku]

kick the trees to... ive been told to stop kicking lamposts but surely woods ok...
im glad im in them as well. my current problem is i need to get in shape cos theres a girl im chasing.... but its all good fun

maybe theres a reason i like the conditioning so much... i realised im the only one there shouting "hit me harder dammit" at people... i cant wait for the heavier class to start... so gonna break my ribs sadly... actually *thinks* lets not break my ribs, that limits just how fun a girl can be lol

surprised ppl actually posted here, thanks for that

[jubaji]

mine was over a girl. everything in my life that ever hurts comes from a girl.. always.

Well that's obviously not true. You need to seek out continuing professional help. Seriously. This is not good.

[seppuku]

maybe not as bad as you think. my relationships are the only part of my life not perfectly under control at the moment. and since i just met a girl, and we're getting on really well, everything may soon be perfect.

like medical help wouldnt do much really. im far from a danger to those around me and im not gonna kill myself or something like that. i just get depressed sometimes, thats all.

if youve never felt like a girls just cut your heart out, your a very lucky guy

[Kotaro]

Wow. I actually started martial arts because of depression over a girl! It has helped me tremendously. Heres a link to the fun climax of that story: http://www.defend.net/deluxeforums/s...ad.php?t=17107 I was never a victim of self-doubt, but I certainly became very depressed, and training in boxing/kickboxing and going to the gym on a constant basis really helped me get my mind off of it and see that if I wanted my future to be better I had to take my life into my own hands and just make it better. Interestingly enough though, me and that girl are back together after nearly a year of separation. It only happened once I was able to be happy with or without her. Focus on making yourself better in more ways that just martial arts, and you'll eventually see that she was just another bitch and that you could've basically had the same kind of feelings for many other girls, and that in the long run it doesn't really matter and you will feel that way again about someone else. You should strive to be happy with or without a girl. It will eventually make you a better person and in turn get you better and/or more poon-tang.

[jubaji]

maybe not as bad as you think. my relationships are the only part of my life not perfectly under control at the moment. and since i just met a girl, and we're getting on really well, everything may soon be perfect.

like medical help wouldnt do much really. im far from a danger to those around me and im not gonna kill myself or something like that. i just get depressed sometimes, thats all.

if youve never felt like a girls just cut your heart out, your a very lucky guy

Maybe if you're looking for more pussy you should stop being one.


Go to a shrink.


Quit the navel gazing.


And change your screen name. It ain't helping your particular problem.

[Kotaro]

You negative bastard.

[jubaji]

You negative bastard.

You fuckin' nutjob.

[Kotaro]

Same to you jerk off.