MT: How do men treat you?

[treelizard]

I don't think I'm better than others because I train, I just like spending time with men who I don't feel need me to walk them home so they can get there safely. I know I'm in the minority; there are plenty of women who are scared of weapons and think training begets violence and want to spend time with pacifists.

Yes, there are men who protect women and children who don't have formal training, but they probably picked up on something somewhere along the way. That's not who I'm talking about.

If someone makes me feel like I have to explain to them why I train, I raise an eyebrow.

[treelizard]

Frankly, I don't need a protector, I need a partner.

But to each his/her own.

I have a feeling you wouldn't turn it down if you needed it...
and the two aren't mutually exclusive.

[Nips]

Hey treelizard, I'm 6ft 2, muscular physique, been training in martial arts for 10 years, can tear a phone book in half with my little toes and am always at the ready. Girls call me "dreamy".
We should meet up.

[Tom Yum]

I don't think I'm better than others because I train, I just like spending time with men who I don't feel need me to walk them home so they can get there safely. I know I'm in the minority; there are plenty of women who are scared of weapons and think training begets violence and want to spend time with pacifists.

If someone makes me feel like I have to explain to them why I train, I raise an eyebrow.

Sounds like you're hanging around guys whom you are physically and maybe mentally inferior to you - I don't know, that's just what it sounds like.

[Tom Yum]

Hey treelizard, I'm 6ft 2, muscular physique, been training in martial arts for 10 years, can tear a phone book in half with my little toes and am always at the ready. Girls call me "dreamy".
We should meet up.

I'm 3'4", 612-lbs and train in the 12-oz curl!

I can tear apart a Chinese buffet in 10 seconds.

Girls call me Puddin'.

Lets be pals.

I'm the last dude in the clip...

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=5c1e4a690e

jk

[GranFire]

I have a feeling you wouldn't turn it down if you needed it...
and the two aren't mutually exclusive.

LOL! I am married to the Sheepdog type guy, It gets old in a hurry!

I am not afraid of the dark - but I am not stupid either.

Part of the deal: Know what you can do and what not.
I don't do guns (I need to try though) and I am a pacifist. Won't keep me from getting doggone mean if my little corner of the world is treaded upon...

However, I get your drift. I got a kid, I don't need a guy who wants me to be his mommy...

Like my mom used to say: We need men, not starched undies!

[treelizard]

Hey treelizard, I'm 6ft 2, muscular physique, been training in martial arts for 10 years, can tear a phone book in half with my little toes and am always at the ready. Girls call me "dreamy".
We should meet up.

LOL! I want to see video footage of the phone book tearing first.

[treelizard]

Sounds like you're hanging around guys whom you are physically and maybe mentally inferior to you - I don't know, that's just what it sounds like.

I wasn't saying that... I was responding to the question by saying I think it's the wrong one to ask. "Do I feel safe with the guys I choose to spend time with" is more important than "How do men treat you when they find out you train" in my opinion.

[treelizard]

LOL! I am married to the Sheepdog type guy, It gets old in a hurry!

I am not afraid of the dark - but I am not stupid either.

Part of the deal: Know what you can do and what not.
I don't do guns (I need to try though) and I am a pacifist. Won't keep me from getting doggone mean if my little corner of the world is treaded upon...

However, I get your drift. I got a kid, I don't need a guy who wants me to be his mommy...

Like my mom used to say: We need men, not starched undies!

I don't have any children but I think if I did I'd like to know that they were safe when they were with my husband.

I think it's something that can be easily taken for granted...

[GranFire]

I don't have any children but I think if I did I'd like to know that they were safe when they were with my husband.

I think it's something that can be easily taken for granted...

LOL! The biggest part in that scenario is whether or not the Husband does anything stupid.

Too bad that too many of them 'protective' types are also controlling...and that I don't do.

But honestly, it's offensive to categorize people int o Soldiers and women. Because...even a woman can be a soldier (not by putting on a uniform) but by standing guard over what's important to her. With or without man.

I train because it's fun, gets me out there and keeps me fit.
I don't lead a life where I need much protecting and I am the Momma Bear when it comes to my kid. You'd rather mess with my Husband then with me in that instance, but that is also very natural!

[treelizard]

I definitely agree with you...not that it's offensive but that women can also be soldiers. I just think men are better at it and don't really have a whole lot of patience for the ones who won't do their job because they "don't feel like it". While it's true that doing stupid things and being controlling could be hindrances, so would an unwillingness to act. Thinking over the post where a bartender was getting the crap kicked out of her in that bar and nobody did jack... that starts somewhere, the inability or lack of desire to step in. I believe it starts with "to each their own" and "i don't feel like protecting others, i just wanna play xbox and get drunks" and "ohmigod ohmigod! what am i gonna do, guys are saying mean things when they find out i train!"

As far as being Momma bear with the kids, all the more reason for there to be two people with different roles--who is going to step outside and who is going to stay home with the kid when something needs taken care of... One of my bros has a rule with his wife...she can get at whatever gets past him.

[Blue Wave Gym]

lol

This whole topic is going in circles. Both tree and gran have some points
Basically in any normal socitety there is an impled responsabitly of the man to protect his woman/wife and kids duhhhh
and there is an expectation of mom to protect her kids.
Some peole are just not agressive peole no matter how much you try to instill it in them. Some guys don't like ma I don't think it makes them less of a man becasue that says that fight makes you a man then lol. Serving your country definately makes you a solider, marine ect. there is not a comproable position in the civvilain world.
This being said some women like men who are protectors some don't gee men and wome are different shhh. As far as a womne protecting a man for the most part lol. Especially a wife protecting a husband, go back to husband school 101, mow the lawn, fix stuff, take out the garbage, be an extermanitor ect. lol
Some women actualy like to clean/cook and do laundry(because they do a better job than the pathetic attempts by thier husbands lol) if all else fail have a chore chart lol. I have nop oint anymore and a headache lol