"Such a little girl!" By Flea - 03-31-2012 07:35 PM
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My favorite lunch is a salad. One of my coworkers showed me a great way to make it portable in a backpack - I throw one together in a big ziplock bag, pack the dressing separately, and throw it all together in a big bowl when I'm ready to eat. I do it every day at work.
This is relevant because I went to a judo seminar this afternoon. I packed my usual lunch along with some chicken and a chocolate milk. And when I was done, I took the dojo owner aside to ask if I could wash the bowl in his office kitchenette.
"What a big bowl for such a little girl!"
If he were some random stranger I would have let him have it. But I've known this guy peripherally for a couple years and he really is a mensch. (That, and he was surrounded by half a dozen students.) I'm not angry. But it was pretty breathtaking all the same.
I let it slide, but I can't help but wonder what I could have done better. I'm thinking about taking him aside next time I see him, but subtlety has always been one of my weak points. I don't know how to give him a friendly heads-up without coming on too strong. I think he should know how that came across, if only so he doesn't say that to someone who would be angry or hurt.
What would Xena do?
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My favorite lunch is a salad. One of my coworkers showed me a great way to make it portable in a backpack - I throw one together in a big ziplock bag, pack the dressing separately, and throw it all together in a big bowl when I'm ready to eat. I do it every day at work.
This is relevant because I went to a judo seminar this afternoon. I packed my usual lunch along with some chicken and a chocolate milk. And when I was done, I took the dojo owner aside to ask if I could wash the bowl in his office kitchenette.
"What a big bowl for such a little girl!"
If he were some random stranger I would have let him have it. But I've known this guy peripherally for a couple years and he really is a mensch. (That, and he was surrounded by half a dozen students.) I'm not angry. But it was pretty breathtaking all the same.
I let it slide, but I can't help but wonder what I could have done better. I'm thinking about taking him aside next time I see him, but subtlety has always been one of my weak points. I don't know how to give him a friendly heads-up without coming on too strong. I think he should know how that came across, if only so he doesn't say that to someone who would be angry or hurt.
What would Xena do?
Read More ... or click reply below.
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