I gotta stop going after bartenders...

[GQchris]

I gotta stop pursuing bartenders or girls who hang out at bars. But darn, I can't help it, I like the bartnder...

[GQchris]

can anyone...

can anyone share any Wisdom with me... I know there are people here with a lot of Wisdom...

I am facing dating conundrums right now...

[Blue Wave Gym]

Wisdom hmm what exactly is your problem, you need to stop dating girls who are bartenders or girls who hang out in bars. Well then just do it it's that simple we all eventually get to old for that crap anyway. Ask yourself what kind of girl are you looking for then figure out where to meet women like that.A little more info would be helpful

[Gmantom]

I'd pay the money for a dating service and then have your choice of dates. If I were single I'd try eharmony or match dot com. Something classy.

[Blue Wave Gym]

Or relationships.com I tried yahoo when I was dating and I barely used it a waste of money. Myspace and hot or not are free though. he hasn't even said what kind of woman he want to date other that not women that hang out in bars there's still alot of area ot cover, lifestyle, values, religion ect.

[Tom Yum]

can anyone share any Wisdom with me... I know there are people here with a lot of Wisdom...I am facing dating conundrums right now...

Chris - keep your chin up, bro!

Find youself a nice trail and go for a good paced run (with buddies if possible) that'll clear your mind.

Get a change of scenery - meet women at places other than bars. Try the gym, try taking some kind of class that will expose you to lots of single, high-quality, available women.

Hell - go out and create a venue to meet single, high-quality, people.

[osopardo]

The time I've lost in wooing,
In watching and pursuing
The light that lies
In woman's eyes,
Has been my heart's undoing.
- Tommy Moore

[Tom Yum]

The time I've lost in wooing,
In watching and pursuing....

I could have made a fortune, hard work ensuing.

The light that lies
In woman's eyes....

makes me look better after each beer that I buys...so my friend, here we stand with time accruing. Guess I'll go improve myself 'cause these bad relationships...

Has been my heart's undoing.

- Tommy Yum

[Bjjexpertise@be]

Good points made by all. Bars probably aren't the best place to look for a long lasting relationship. Most gals at bars and looking for a good time and that's about it. Keep trying my friend, you'll find someone, probably at a place you least expect it.

[Tom Yum]

Good points made by all. Bars probably aren't the best place to look for a long lasting relationship. Most gals at bars and looking for a good time and that's about it. Keep trying my friend, you'll find someone, probably at a place you least expect it.

I would also recommend against going to church to meet women.

Sometimes, its not much different than the bar scene. I'm not saying this is the truth for everyone - you'll either meet women whom are looking for a very, very specific man that matches her ethnicity, socio-economic background and personality (and this is just being human, since nature is lazy)

OR

you'll meet the same gal who hangs out at the same bar you go to, realizing this when you see her dressed a bit more conservatively.



If ya go to church, go for God first and maybe fellowship second.

[Garland]

If I were single I'd try eharmony or match dot com. Something classy.

...What the ****?! That's so fucking sad. Classy? Jesus.

[Garland]

The time I've lost in wooing,
In watching and pursuing
The light that lies
In woman's eyes,
Has been my heart's undoing.
- Tommy Moore

Whatever doesn't kill you...makes you a cynical and cruel bastard.
From now on, I'll relish the pursuit (the chase is most of the fun) awknowledge and confront the fact that feelings of attraction fade shortly after consumating anything physical...and that any lingering feelings stem out of a lack of being emotionally secure (i.e. feeling like you have gone from enjoying somebodies company- to needing it regardless of the fact they are a liar, or a cheater, or a bitch, or all of the above.) Little rejections in a relationship tend and being spurned tends to spur one on...perpetuating personal misery and further capitulating a miserable relationship.

From now on, I'll be like a wolf- enjoy the pursuit, and once it's done...move on. Random girls at parties and bars...girls at school, at work...cuties I see out in public...MAYBE I'll even start going to church again, just for the novelty of maybe having a chance at a chaste and virtuous little choir girl, or maybe to defrock a nun.
I aim to be self serving, I've been far too sensitive, and my chivalrous demeanor needs to die off. In other words...I'm learning to harden-the-****-up...

by not taking advantage of all of life's bounties, I am squandering my limited existence away.

[blitz]

Eh depends on what you are looking to get from the woman. I mean you shouldn't go looking for a wife when going after them but lots of them are hot so you can get "other" things

[Tom Yum]

I mean you shouldn't go looking for a wife when going after them but lots of them are hot so you can get "other" things

Whew....that has a double meaning....

[DickHardman]

you know, after being in the dumps for quite a while, i actually ended up meeting a hot little lady a couple nights ago. she was eyeing me from afar, so i went and said hello. we ended up chatting for quite a while, talking about all kinds of things. after thinking my luck had maybe finally changed, maybe i had finally found someone i could hang out with and talk to, i see her at the end of the night with some other guy all over her.

now, im not too disappointed, cause things like this are the norm for me. of course it had to turn out this way, and thats fine. i accept that. i just dont really understand why?? did this girl really spend 2+ hours talking to me just to tease me or get some kind of ego boost when she was never even interested in me at all? i just dont really understand. what did she get out of it?