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    Am I pretentious, self-centered, haughty?

    I've been a poster here for a good 5 years and I think that my online persona is probably somewhat close to IRL. Add to the fact that I have contacted a good number of you offline for awhile - Mike, Boar, EF, Tree etc.

    I find it strange that someone would try to pin me to the above traits, I'm wondering if I ran enough benefit races, volunteered enough at museums, shelters, charities and dontations over the recent years - granted I don't talk about these things, since my religious influences make me want to "give with one hand so that the other hand doesn't notice"

    This year, I've run a race to raise a little money for a certain disease, participated in a social benefit activity against domestic violence and worked for a food drive all while actively serving my country, with little free time. These things were done on my own and off duty. Granted, I like to go out and have fun too.

    With the year end approaching, I think its good to do a little reflection. This is the first time for me to sit down and really list the things I've done for the betterment of others.

    I guess if others don't see it, it doesn't count? or does it?

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    You are what you are. You seem like a good man.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Tom Yum View Post
      Am I pretentious, self-centered, haughty?

      I've been a poster here for a good 5 years and I think that my online persona is probably somewhat close to IRL. Add to the fact that I have contacted a good number of you offline for awhile - Mike, Boar, EF, Tree etc.

      I find it strange that someone would try to pin me to the above traits, I'm wondering if I ran enough benefit races, volunteered enough at museums, shelters, charities and dontations over the recent years - granted I don't talk about these things, since my religious influences make me want to "give with one hand so that the other hand doesn't notice"

      This year, I've run a race to raise a little money for a certain disease, participated in a social benefit activity against domestic violence and worked for a food drive all while actively serving my country, with little free time. These things were done on my own and off duty. Granted, I like to go out and have fun too.

      With the year end approaching, I think its good to do a little reflection. This is the first time for me to sit down and really list the things I've done for the betterment of others.

      I guess if others don't see it, it doesn't count? or does it?
      I'm sure a lot of murderers, child molesters, rapists, and serial killers could have done a lot of good in their neighborhoods. Look at Catholic preists. I'm sure they did a hell of a lot of good in their communities. That doesn't change who or what they are.

      Its great to do good deeds but ultimately like Hardball said you are who you are. All the deeds in the world won't change that. If that's you're idea of what a good person is then it would be easy for you to think of yourself as a good person and be completely unaware of your own faults and flaws. We all have flaws. Its just that some are more obvious than others.

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      • #4
        Excellent points and a good start for self-reflection. I'm trying to pinpoint where I'm coming across as pretentious and haughty?

        I don't flash cash; I don't do glamorous work although I'm definitely enjoying what I'm learning and the folks sharing the knowledge. I'm by no means what you'd call a fashionably popular fellow - am a little bit of an extrovert, but not over the top, if anything I prefer things more low-key.

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        • #5
          Poster boy...

          Originally posted by Tom Yum View Post
          Am I pretentious, self-centered, haughty?

          I've been a poser here for a good 5 years .........

          ......?
          That's our Tom... poser of the year (again) LOL

          Maybe you need to consider the source?

          Don't lose any sleep over it...

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Tant01 View Post
            That's our Tom... poser of the year (again) LOL...
            Loving my honorary title.

            And for the record, I've never gotten into any fights.

            Hard-core debating sure, but as usually I'm worried about the hair (that I don't have) falling out of place.

            Originally posted by Tant01 View Post
            Maybe you need to consider the source?
            Don't lose any sleep over it...
            Indeed

            I like to look at others thoughts, reflect on them, scrutinize them and test them as openly as possible - whether friendly or not.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Tom Yum View Post
              Am I pretentious, self-centered, haughty?

              I've been a poster here for a good 5 years and I think that my online persona is probably somewhat close to IRL. Add to the fact that I have contacted a good number of you offline for awhile - Mike, Boar, EF, Tree etc.

              I find it strange that someone would try to pin me to the above traits, I'm wondering if I ran enough benefit races, volunteered enough at museums, shelters, charities and dontations over the recent years - granted I don't talk about these things, since my religious influences make me want to "give with one hand so that the other hand doesn't notice"

              This year, I've run a race to raise a little money for a certain disease, participated in a social benefit activity against domestic violence and worked for a food drive all while actively serving my country, with little free time. These things were done on my own and off duty. Granted, I like to go out and have fun too.

              With the year end approaching, I think its good to do a little reflection. This is the first time for me to sit down and really list the things I've done for the betterment of others.

              I guess if others don't see it, it doesn't count? or does it?
              As Tant01 said, you might want to consider the source. Was it a woman? Was it someone who just straight up doesn't like you?
              If you're doing all you can to be a good person then I'm sure you are one. If that's not good enough for you perhaps you could ask your close friend(s) and family if you have any annoying/nagging personality traits.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Tant01 View Post
                That's our Tom... poser of the year (again) LOL
                Hey Tom, that is an insult! LOL Poser means Phony, Charltan or pretender. LOL I'm Sure Tanto was pulling your leg.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Bjjexpertise@be View Post
                  As Tant01 said, you might want to consider the source. Was it a woman? Was it someone who just straight up doesn't like you? .
                  People who type cast you in one dimension usually don't really know you that well.

                  For instance, some folks IRL don't know that I learned Chinese through courses/immersion and assume that I learned it at home.

                  Originally posted by Bjjexpertise@be View Post
                  If you're doing all you can to be a good person then I'm sure you are one. If that's not good enough for you perhaps you could ask your close friend(s) and family if you have any annoying/nagging personality traits.
                  I've done this in the past and have had good success with this. I think I'll try this again.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Hardball View Post
                    Hey Tom, that is an insult! LOL Poser means Phony, Charltan or pretender. LOL I'm Sure Tanto was pulling your leg.
                    I know.

                    Tant likes to pull my leg...he's a grappler!

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Tom Yum View Post
                      I know.

                      Tant likes to pull on legs...he's a grappler!
                      Just checking. LOL

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Hardball View Post
                        Just checking. LOL
                        Now THAT is rough play....


                        atleast in hockey it is.

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                        • #13
                          ............... FUN FUN....

                          more good rep soon...

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                          • #14
                            Honorary Title?

                            Originally posted by Tom Yum View Post
                            Loving my honorary title.

                            .........

                            ....


                            You are worthy of a personalized (custom) user title...

                            If you wish...(?)

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Tant01 View Post
                              You are worthy of a personalized (custom) user title...

                              If you wish...(?)

                              Thank you! I'll have to think about it and get back to you.

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