Knock-knock...

[Tant01]

The cancer is taking over. She can not produce enough red blood cells to sustain life. The fight is almost over.

She will be missed dearly...

This forum has been a splendid distraction over the past couple years, I am thankful for the e-friendships we have made here. I'm not sure if my participation will continue or just what my own future has in store.

Thanks for having me.

[treelizard]

I'm sorry.

Milky oats, passionflower and Mexican poppy on their way...

[Tant01]

Loretta will be coming home tomorrow!





.....To die...

They gave her four units of blood over the last two days. Temporary "fix" at best.

May God forgive us....

[osopardo]

My support and prayers

Ray,

Don't know if you're already ahead of me on this but contact Hospice of Humboldt.

Hospice care makes things more bearable for the patient and the whole family. Ask the doctor.

http://www.hospiceofhumboldt.org/

Many prayers for you and Loretta and the whole family.

[Tant01]

Ray,

Don't know if you're already ahead of me on this but contact Hospice of Humboldt.

Hospice care makes things more bearable for the patient and the whole family. Ask the doctor.

http://www.hospiceofhumboldt.org/

Many prayers for you and Loretta and the whole family.

I've spoken with Dr. Nielson (the medical director of Hospice here) last week and again today. Much has happened in that week but it was primarily up to my wife to decide she was ready for "hospice" care. They have a copy of our advanced directive and have made arrangements for the medical equipment we will need at home> ( a bed, wheel chair, walker, O2, etc...) We have an appointment tomorrow or interview with an admissions nurse and a social worker to determine the quality and quantity of care she will need. Thanks kindly my friend!

[Tant01]

Loretta C Carlson passed away this morning around 2:40 AM. 12-4-69 to 07-15-06 She will be missed dearly. Rest in peace my wife...

We spent every moment of her last hours together. We celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary on 7-13-06. The best years of my life!

[eXcessiveForce]

May you and your daughter find peace.

and remember to cherish your memories perhaps even write them down, so that as your daughter grows she can maintain a connection with her mother.

I am sorry my friend.

[Tant01]

Thanks Tim..."I do" is until we are BOTH dead! Lots of love around here. Her family is up from the desert, her best friend from Tenn. is here with her husband. Her friends locally have all been by to pay respects and cherish her last days, hours.

She died in my arms. Doesn't get any more precious than that buddy.

[osopardo]

My most sincere condolences to you and your family.

You will grieve and miss her, but you will find comfort and joy knowing that she is truly free of the suffering we all endure here.

And be glad that you were privileged to share your love, even to the end - and beyond.

"If I speak in tongues of men and of angels, but have not Love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not Love, I am nothing.
If I give up all I possess and surrender my body to the flames, but have not Love, I gain nothing.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is Love". - I Corinthians, chapter 13

Nobody really knows what to say in situations like this, but if you need the ear of a friend you've never met, you have it.

[Tant01]

Thanks very kindly for your thoughtful post ya big ol' bear...


You are a good e-friend!


All my best to you and yours.


~Ray

[treelizard]

My condolences. May you find strength in your memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[stabbychick]

Loretta C Carlson passed away this morning around 2:40 AM. 12-4-69 to 07-15-06 She will be missed dearly. Rest in peace my wife...

We spent every moment of her last hours together. We celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary on 7-13-06. The best years of my life!

My sympathies to you and your family. Cherish those good memories! Take care of yourself... I know you'll take good care of your daughter. You're a rare example of a true gentleman.

[Tant01]

Your kindnesses are most treasured. Thanks to all for your warmth and strength in these trying times!


Take good care of your friends and loved ones!


All the best,


~Ray

[7r14ngL3Ch0k3]

Dude, be strong! Rise up from the ashes and live your life to the fullest!!!

[Tant01]

Spoke with my father today. He came down from Oregon to pay his respects.

Funny story. When I married Loretta he asked her "So how did you end up with Ray?" She looked at him for a moment with a straight face and said "Well, I drew the short straw"

My daughter Kristy came down from Washington with her son Luke and a new baby boy named "Peter" (One month old) Making my dad great grandpa X 3. Her twin sister Misty was also here with her son Cody.

My son came by to see all the relatives that are here from both sides of the family today. And, tomorrow Am. I will make a trip to the mortuary to take care of some details. Visit the DMV, County records office, be home in time to have the rented medical equipment picked up.

More visiting with close family, sending replies to all the rest that want to know about a service.

We will not have a traditional ceremony. The close friends and family that were here before her death had what I call a "Living Celebration". I do not see a point to a funeral myself. However, for those that wish to take part in some kind of memorial we have a "book of rememberance" for all of our friends and family that missed the living memorial or did not.

I hope to have as many friends and family write some small tribute into the pages. They can take their time and personalize a page in the book or even two or three. It will be a more fitting way to remember the wonderful woman who was so close to so many good people.

So her epitaph will read "I drew the short straw"