Need some advice on a bachelors trip

[capabilitieso]

My husband and I have been together 3 years. I moved to a new state after getting out of the military and meeting him, this is both our first healthy relationship. When we first got together, we sat down and talked about our past, expectations, etc. One thing we both agreed on was that we don’t take trips without the other (because that’s not who we are, we are best friends and want to do everything together, etc). I suffer from anxiety and depression. Being in a new state, I don’t have any friends and I was feeling super depressed and wanted to go see my friend for a yoga/food getaway at her place. My husband and I had our first fight over it. He was very upset and said how could I think about going on a trip and not inviting him and our agreement, etc, and also that it sounded very “sketchy” and acted like he didn’t trust me. I didn’t end up going and I felt bad. Now, he wants to go on a bachelors trip for his friend. I would like to mention that these friends constantly openly say how much they hate their wives (fighting in front of guests, etc) and constantly want to do guy trips to getaway and are pretty wild. My husband is upset because I don’t want him going on this trip and we got into our second biggest fight and he said things like I gotta make either my friends happy or my wife and he completely shut down and that really hurt my feelings. I felt that he wasn’t respectful and that we need to communicate and do activities that strengthen our relationship and not ones that would cause either one of us stress, just like the trip I wanted to go on that I didn’t go on because it would have caused him stress.
I know a part of it is because I have a lot of anxiety and I don’t trust his friends. My husband also has shown that he doesn’t handle his alcohol and gives into peer pressure so I am worried he would do something that he normally wouldn’t do. I do trust him not to do anything crazy (cheat, etc) but the main issue is the double standard.

I don’t know what to do.
I know if he goes on this trip, I am going to be very anxious the whole time. I’m also upset that this is a double standard. Last time we talked he said he understood where I was coming from, no worries but he then a week later is venmo-ing his friend for the trip but hasn’t communicated with me if he’s going or not.
Should I just be ok with him going? Or remind him of our agreement or what? I don’t understand how we can have no problems or issues and this thing is so blown out of proportion. Is there a way I should bring it up without it turning into an argument?

[JasonByrne]

If she's uncomfortable with the trip, it's worth having an honest talk about boundaries. Some people see these trips as harmless fun, while others view them differently. Communication is key.

[DaneShayd]

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