Fear......

[gevorgkhc]

Even though I know I can beat them up, I can't. Their intimadations make me fear them. I try my best to say, just do it, but I can't. I get hit, slapped, spit at, cursed at, and all I could say is F you and run away :-/. I KNOW that i can beat them up, yet my mind is afraid which paralizes me.

how can i help myself to stay strong and win a fight. I want to learn how to intmidate. Please give me some links or guides or your personal opinion of how i can help myself.

[unclejoe357]

I think you might get get the answers you want here.

If you cant beat them up, then you are wrong when you "know" you can.

Walk away from somebody running their mouth. If they try to hit you, then you can put them down.

If you want somebody to stop hitting you bad enough you'll learn to hit back.

[Penance]

I know how you feel. People running their mouth can be very intimidating and discouraging. Especially when it's multiple people saying things like "oh my boy's gonna bust you in the grill" etc, etc, etc.

Like someone (Mike) said in another thread, hit them mid-sentence, mid-syllable. That'll shut them up =)

Also, remember that beating someone up doesn't mean you win the fight, the battle, or the war. You could get suspended or expelled, and education really IS an important thing.

They could jump you later with weapons or any number of things. If they are constantly harassing you then tell your teachers or principal. If there are security guards at your school, tell them about it. Who cares if you "lose face" in other people's eyes? They're not really your friends if they are going to look down on you for avoiding a fight and standing up against violence, and if they're not your friends, then who cares what they think or say?

I'd mentally go over the situation in your mind. Imagine them doing what they do to you. You'll probably feel uncomfortable and intimidated just thinking about it. Good. Work through it. Mentally condition yourself to not be bothered by it and focus on what's important: defending yourself and keeping yourself out of harm!

[kckbxblnd]

You have to realize that your choices now will affect the rest of your life... Instead of cussing back at them which (obviously) will provoke them back... nnnOOOooo. All they want is a reaction out of you, and you are giving them one verbally--just be invisible. You can easily report them for harassment, or somethin glike that which would allow you to have sort of a protectant--yet at the same time (I realize, I am still in school) that you dont want that type of stigma around you. The people who fight at my school (public hs) are looked down upon (not muay thai but just fight in the halls). If you are going to fight them be smart about it and train because if you fight in anger rather than vengefulness you will disgrace yourself and get hurt. Be smart and let me know how it goes.

[Tom Yum]

Even though I know I can beat them up, I can't. Their intimadations make me fear them. I try my best to say, just do it, but I can't. I get hit, slapped, spit at, cursed at.

You need to have a good sense of humor about yourself. Don't be so high strung about the antics.

You need to let your teachers know that this is happening, so if you have to fight someone they will know why. Chances are that these kids hang out in groups when they do this and probably won't do it alone.

Approach the most approachable of the bullies when he's alone and ask him why he does this? Get to know him and talk to him. Bring a friend as a witness to your good sportsmanship.

Do the same thing with the meanest of the bullies. He'll either get to know you and still mess with you but in a more humorous and less harmfull way if he's really a good kid.

or

he'll call you out. If he does, get ready to throw down and throw hard.

[LatinoHeat]

Reply to Fear

Fear prior a fight or sparring is usually insecurity in your strength & weaknesses.
I agree with Benny Urquidez when he says knowledge is power.
One must practice both striking & grappling as well as condition once body to take impact.
I would study a variety of Martial Arts like the following:
Muay Thai Kickboxing, Grappling, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Judo, Sambo, Krav Maga, Boxing, Kyokushinkai Karate, Wing Chun, Aikido, & Jeet Kune Do.
One needs to do a lot of: sparring, grappling, throwing, & striking. Mixing the Arts is the key. And so is stamina lots of running bagwork skipping stomach conditioning & Weight Training.
You must train for speed explosiveness stamina & strength.
Also Shin Conditioning & The ability to take impact.
Use your shoulders to take impact learn to move out the way of a kick or punch rapidly & striking back at the same time.
I also think powerlifting can help with building aggression.
And remember the way you train is the way you fight.
Focus skill agression strength & speed the keys to winning a fight.
Phillip.

[Drache]

I want to learn how to intmidate. Please give me some links or guides or your personal opinion of how i can help myself.

Tell them you are HIV positive and you bite harder than any wolf thier mother has mated with, then run toward them swinging your arms like you're in the special olympics while chomping at the air.

I would study a variety of Martial Arts like the following:
Muay Thai Kickboxing, Grappling, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Judo, Sambo, Krav Maga, Boxing, Kyokushinkai Karate, Wing Chun, Aikido, & Jeet Kune Do.

Yeah you could take LatinoHeat's suggestion because after you learn all of those listed martial arts systems, you will be around 75 years old and in a nursing home and your potential opponents will probably be suffering from many illnesses BUT you will know at least 308 katas and they will probably roll off in thier wheelchairs instead of messing with you after watching your display of walking and blocking patterns and screams of "AIYA! AIYA!"

[BrAz!LiAn TiG3R]

Tell them you are HIV positive and you bite harder than any wolf thier mother has mated with, then run toward them swinging your arms like you're in the special olympics while chomping at the air.



Yeah you could take LatinoHeat's suggestion because after you learn all of those listed martial arts systems, you will be around 75 years old and in a nursing home and your potential opponents will probably be suffering from many illnesses BUT you will know at least 308 katas and they will probably roll off in thier wheelchairs instead of messing with you after watching your display of walking and blocking patterns and screams of "AIYA! AIYA!"

Lol, just kick their asses kid. Plain and simple, and if you get hurt while trying, then get hurt. The only way they win is if you walk away frustrated and angry. You'll lose your dignity and pride if you don't, and 50 years from now you'll still cry yourself to sleep at night at the shame of what you could have done. Stand up to them and show them you're not going to take their shit anymore. I know it's probably easier said than donw, but the best way to take the fear away is to just do it. The fear will eventually go away.

[djcaldwell]

Lol, just kick their asses kid. Plain and simple, and if you get hurt while trying, then get hurt. The only way they win is if you walk away frustrated and angry. You'll lose your dignity and pride if you don't, and 50 years from now you'll still cry yourself to sleep at night at the shame of what you could have done. Stand up to them and show them you're not going to take their shit anymore. I know it's probably easier said than donw, but the best way to take the fear away is to just do it. The fear will eventually go away.

Oh! That's great advise. School counsler material there. Everyone is offering this young man advise and none of us know his situation before we tell him to go pounding on people and getting himself injured (and it does matter) how about we find out what he know.

Before I even offer a suggestion - what makes you so confident that you can beat them all up? The reason being is that as someone posted earlier if you were that confident then one of two things would happen a) you would do it or b) you walk away and it doesn't phase you at all.

So please let us know, have you trained before...have you ever had a fight before?

FOR THE OTHERS EAGERLY THROWING HIM TO BATTLE

I grew up in NYC (as some here may be too) so I know all about the saving face, and having to face bullies and show them that you're not going to take it. Sometimes, it works and other times it will get the crap kicked out of you and if you step up to the wrong person it could cost you a great deal - especially in these days. So before you send someone off into battle with no consequence to yourself think about it. You may have trained or just be a good fighter - not everyone can do that and there are alternatives. I had my fair share of fights, victories and defeats but I never entered into one frivilously just to show I'm not one to be reckoned with. When and if the time came for me to fight...they learned then that they should not have...but until then most bullies as someone here said earlier loose interest if you just walked away from the verbal assault (usually with a smile). Physically that's another story - but we'll get into that if we hear back from this young man.

[white devil]

youre all wrong..

guys im sorry..but i have to disagree with you all...who ever mentionned anything about having to fight?
what this kid needs is confidence; if you know your enemy and know yourself theres no reason to wonder who will win.You will! dont forget that your unbeatable,youve been training hard and thoses guys havent!But thats just assuming you will need to fight..remember thats only your last resort.

What you need is to learn is the art of talking back...remember whatever word you dont reply to,makes you lose ur balls a bit more (especially infront of a crowd)...when someone tells you this,practice saying something funny and clever to embarass them..Remember to always look at them in the eyes and stay confident..remember that u are the strongest

whatever you do,dont report this to any teacher or principals.(not yet) that will only make you lose face and thoses guys will make you go through hell for the rest of school.

in fact if you learn to talk well,you will earn their respect and they'll either join u or leave u alone..if they get mad and hit you then you throw ur punches(challenge one of them outside of school though)

so listen,if talking back doesnt work..your gonna go to the bigger guy and tell him face to face..ALWAYS LOOK INTO THE EYES AND SPEAK LOUD AND CLEAR....''listen you fuçker if you dont stop screwing around with me i will kill you!!!''..if they say something like oh yeah? and push you..then you show em ur stuff.

finaly just challenging them and not letting them walk over you will earn you respect and i can tell you that you will have learned a valuable thing in your life that is not letting people disrespect you!if you can't earn the respect ..then take it!!

dont forget all it takes is one good punch!! who cares if they beat the crap out of you..in fact the more they are the better..you wont die in a school fight!So when you stand up the next time ull be able to tell them ''listen ,ur all pussies..u talk shit when ur all 2gether but you cant beat me one on one.''And just the fact that u dont care how many they are..trust me they will be affraid.i assure you!

last words: you must know everything about your enemy.keep your poker face at all times,if ur affraid,never show it,never tell anyone!If ur hurt dont show it,just stand up and ask for more...DONT BE RECLESS THOUGH..DONT EVER PUT MORE THAN ENOUGH..USE YOUR JUSGEMENT.And above all be confident and cool,remember that you are the best there is!I can tell you by experience that bluffing will make u win fights before they even happen 70% of the time..actually the reason they pick on you is because u dont LOOK strong mentally and physically.You change now!Leave all your emotions behind kid and take back what belongs to you..Your pride!!!

[ck5]

"Somewhat bullied" is like "somewhat pregnant". Either you are or you aren't. Before taking any physical action I would suggest following the chain of command- discuss this problem with....
1. the school guidance counselor.
if that doesn't work....
2. the school vice-principal.
if that doesn't work....
3. the school principal.
if that doesn't work....
2. the school police resource officer.
if that doesn't work....
Then beat the living snot out of those kids, and the school cannot legally hold you accountable at that point because you would have clearly done everything in your power to seek assistance.

[Sasquatch]

Yeah dude. You know why Bruce Lee became what he was? Because he used to always get his ass handed to him, so he decided he'd had enough. Gotta start somewhere. One thing I can tell you is, learn a few good kicks. Little punks like what you're talking about will never expect it. Learn a joint lock or two, and 1 good takedown, and that'll be enough.

[Drache]

And remember kids, no matter who wins or loses the fights in school, stay in school and move on to college or you will end up typing "ur" instead of "your" and the world will hate you (well, maybe not the whole world, but I sure will) for being so mentally inept and conducting yourself in such a pathetic manner.

And try not to take advice from those who spell like they have been kicked in the head after school daily or held underwater for long periods of time as a kid.

[>:)]

wot r u taklin ab0ut, hell b fIne









L0LZ

[white devil]

woOt R u sAyin' man? im 'n college at thiz very momentt!!