Fear......

[white devil]

Drache, seriously, get off your high horse

And try not to take advice from those who spell like they have been kicked in the head after school daily or held underwater for long periods of time as a kid.

i wasn't writing an essay but giving the kid a word of advice..the hell with the spellin..and just to let you know english is only my third language so im sorry for being so pathetic

[Richard Kerr]

guys im sorry..but i have to disagree with you all...who ever mentionned anything about having to fight?
what this kid needs is confidence; if you know your enemy and know yourself theres no reason to wonder who will win.You will! dont forget that your unbeatable,youve been training hard and thoses guys havent!But thats just assuming you will need to fight..remember thats only your last resort.

What you need is to learn is the art of talking back...remember whatever word you dont reply to,makes you lose ur balls a bit more (especially infront of a crowd)...when someone tells you this,practice saying something funny and clever to embarass them..Remember to always look at them in the eyes and stay confident..remember that u are the strongest

whatever you do,dont report this to any teacher or principals.(not yet) that will only make you lose face and thoses guys will make you go through hell for the rest of school.

in fact if you learn to talk well,you will earn their respect and they'll either join u or leave u alone..if they get mad and hit you then you throw ur punches(challenge one of them outside of school though)

so listen,if talking back doesnt work..your gonna go to the bigger guy and tell him face to face..ALWAYS LOOK INTO THE EYES AND SPEAK LOUD AND CLEAR....''listen you fuçker if you dont stop screwing around with me i will kill you!!!''..if they say something like oh yeah? and push you..then you show em ur stuff.

finaly just challenging them and not letting them walk over you will earn you respect and i can tell you that you will have learned a valuable thing in your life that is not letting people disrespect you!if you can't earn the respect ..then take it!!

dont forget all it takes is one good punch!! who cares if they beat the crap out of you..in fact the more they are the better..you wont die in a school fight!So when you stand up the next time ull be able to tell them ''listen ,ur all pussies..u talk shit when ur all 2gether but you cant beat me one on one.''And just the fact that u dont care how many they are..trust me they will be affraid.i assure you!

last words: you must know everything about your enemy.keep your poker face at all times,if ur affraid,never show it,never tell anyone!If ur hurt dont show it,just stand up and ask for more...DONT BE RECLESS THOUGH..DONT EVER PUT MORE THAN ENOUGH..USE YOUR JUSGEMENT.And above all be confident and cool,remember that you are the best there is!I can tell you by experience that bluffing will make u win fights before they even happen 70% of the time..actually the reason they pick on you is because u dont LOOK strong mentally and physically.You change now!Leave all your emotions behind kid and take back what belongs to you..Your pride!!!

Very good advice.

[kanik]

dude it depends how many there are... one too 3 is allright... but anymore and you might have to watch yourself. Confidence and determination are the key to any good martial artist, i mean look at bruce lee, his confidence is like a bright light and his determination is even stronger. No matter how strong somone is, if you are more determend and confident in yourself, you will be the victor. Some people may think i am talking bullsh*t but if ya do then that means you are lacking in the two areas that any fighter needs. anywho just try not to let it get to you as much and what most people like that want is for a reaction of some sort, or money, or any personall gain on there part. so be strong dont give in... get the crap beat outa you... oops i didnt mean to say that... i dunno what advice you need because i dunno what your situation is exactly, but to get over fear, all you need to do is conquer it... most likely you are scared of pain, or any permenant damage they can do, and if not then wtf are you scared of!? Dont think aboiut pain, it hurts but after a week or two you will barely feel it (hopefully) everything is temporary so screw it. anyway now that i reread this, i think it would be helpfull, bnut not helpful... wait a minute i just... nah that wouldnt... anyway peace out....

[Juicefree]

My two pennies worth, and speaking from personal experience.

You need to leave this situation happy with yourself and how you handled it. Sometimes that means talking your way out of it sometimes it means, as a last resort, a fight.

At school it is different as matters rarely escalate beyond the immediate consequences.

Ask yourself why you are intimidated. If it is because you feel you will lose, go away and train harder, build your confidence until you know you will win. I make the assumption here that you are training in some sort of martial art ?

Even if you lose, if you strike one good blow I bet you you will never see those bullies again, They will move onto easier prey.

A number of times in my life, because I'm small with a big mouth, I was bullied. In every single instance a single strike was all it took to move the bullies on, even if I didn't win I would earn their instant respect.

Remember most bullies are cowards by definition. Otherwise they would be training and looking for a challenge. See these bullies as a challenge in your life, another means to build your character and improve your martial skills.

Train hard, build your skill and confidence, and next time be ready, when you're bullied just hit that one guy right on the chin and if nothing else you'll come away with self-respect.

Good luck.

[kanik]

My two pennies worth, and speaking from personal experience.

You need to leave this situation happy with yourself and how you handled it. Sometimes that means talking your way out of it sometimes it means, as a last resort, a fight.

At school it is different as matters rarely escalate beyond the immediate consequences.

Ask yourself why you are intimidated. If it is because you feel you will lose, go away and train harder, build your confidence until you know you will win. I make the assumption here that you are training in some sort of martial art ?

Even if you lose, if you strike one good blow I bet you you will never see those bullies again, They will move onto easier prey.

A number of times in my life, because I'm small with a big mouth, I was bullied. In every single instance a single strike was all it took to move the bullies on, even if I didn't win I would earn their instant respect.

Remember most bullies are cowards by definition. Otherwise they would be training and looking for a challenge. See these bullies as a challenge in your life, another means to build your character and improve your martial skills.

Train hard, build your skill and confidence, and next time be ready, when you're bullied just hit that one guy right on the chin and if nothing else you'll come away with self-respect.

Good luck.

wow dude thats some damn good advice, if only i could give advice like that. If that doesnt help i dunno what will.

[zedex]

building yourself up will help ward off the bullies, being big will be a visual detterent

[Crimson Khan]

i only recently got out of school
i was never bullied until i got to my last school
i was always the cool kid that everyone liked
but at my last school a bunch of idiots decided to pick on me

i put up with it for a few weeks, hoping it'd blow over
but it only got worse, they went from yelling from a distance to coming up in my face abusing me
i kept telling myself, let it go, dont smash his teeth into the earth

eventualy i had to snap
i dropped my bag and asked "who the f*** said that"
he stepped forward
i smashed him in the face, a small fight continued
then it got broken up
2 days later had a rematch coz everyone at school got involved and i thought hell i'll end it all now
smashed him good and proper
after that, i seemed to have alot me friends around school (other than my normal friends which i had all along) but yea

if they are spitting dont take it!
spitting is the lowest form of disrespect
if ANYONE spat in my face it would not go unchallenged no matter what
and if it was someone i knew i could beat up, like you do
instant beating
dont go too far tho
take it to the extend where he bleeds or is unconcious
otherwise they'll comeback for more
but dont never go too far, if he begs for mercy give only 1 more punch to the face then give mercy
and walk away

also
try to avoid them
if they seek you out, its self defence bro
respect yourself man, the body is your temple, dont let people spit on ur temple man
PEACE.

[kanik]

i only recently got out of school
i was never bullied until i got to my last school
i was always the cool kid that everyone liked
but at my last school a bunch of idiots decided to pick on me

i put up with it for a few weeks, hoping it'd blow over
but it only got worse, they went from yelling from a distance to coming up in my face abusing me
i kept telling myself, let it go, dont smash his teeth into the earth

eventualy i had to snap
i dropped my bag and asked "who the f*** said that"
he stepped forward
i smashed him in the face, a small fight continued
then it got broken up
2 days later had a rematch coz everyone at school got involved and i thought hell i'll end it all now
smashed him good and proper
after that, i seemed to have alot me friends around school (other than my normal friends which i had all along) but yea

if they are spitting dont take it!
spitting is the lowest form of disrespect
if ANYONE spat in my face it would not go unchallenged no matter what
and if it was someone i knew i could beat up, like you do
instant beating
dont go too far tho
take it to the extend where he bleeds or is unconcious
otherwise they'll comeback for more
but dont never go too far, if he begs for mercy give only 1 more punch to the face then give mercy
and walk away

also
try to avoid them
if they seek you out, its self defence bro
respect yourself man, the body is your temple, dont let people spit on ur temple man
PEACE.

Heya wise words of wisdom dude damn right if anyone spat in my face i wouldnt take it.

[Crimson Khan]

thats right man
its so low to do that
my friend thum told me that if someone did that in thailand they'd get so smashed!
here its possible to get away with it, but not if you do it to me
lol

[kanik]

haa haa yeh i have a friend who comes from thailand and he told me that it is an incredably disrespectful thing to. Because of my religius beleifs i think it is absolutely disgusting and stuff... if somone spat on me i would hurt them so bad, and then have a shower ^_^.

[Garland]

Heya wise words of wisdom dude damn right if anyone spat in my face i wouldnt take it.

yeah...just make sure they aren't sitting on a counter with a bunch of sharp pointy things handy. I have about a 4 1/2 inch long scar above my right eye from a cooking thermometer because of snaping into action after somebody spit on me.

[kanik]

yeah...just make sure they aren't sitting on a counter with a bunch of sharp pointy things handy. I have about a 4 1/2 inch long scar above my right eye from a cooking thermometer because of snaping into action after somebody spit on me.

wow really? thats crazy. though you could allways grab one of the objects first ^_^ nah that wouldnt be wise.

[jaymackz]

This thread is dead, and i know that, but those "bullies" probably have never felt pain because they are the ones inflicting abuse to others.....once you teach them a lesson, their confidence will bomb straight down. If they go too far with the abuse, talk to them about it and ask them to stop bugging you, if that doesnt work, then try to walk away and ignore them. If that doesnt work apply pressure to them by doing what some people have mentioned before, Pressure locks or submissions. If that dont work just kick the shit out of them

[MercilessMing]

Mmmm , but problem that if you start fighting , you might get suspended and expell from school , but somehow you gotta learn how to speak up and defend yourself . I once beat a crap out of a guy who physically assault me , all I do was use those move I learn from Aikido ( yep , those really work ) . But since that guy do not know how to fall and defend himself from that attack ( yep , from there , I can see why falling and rolling is vital to our training ) . His back of his head start bleeding and he can't get up . To release all my frustration and anger , I kick him and kick him and kick him until he shut up ( I do not mean dead , just make him shut up and not say anything ) . I got suspended , almost everybody fear me and I hardly had any friend except for those few I had make earlier . Yep and i hate kissing ass .

If you want to fight , better think of the consequences . In this world nothing is perfect , among all your bunch of friends , very few will actually be really good friends to you . That why , I have very few friends but all of whom are very trustworthy . I dun need a bunch of people to make me feel cool and invincible , I need people I can trust and rely on and do not force me against my own freewill .

When for me , when it come to making friends , either you be a very good friends to me , or you dun and let us pretend that we have nv met b4 .

I am not very hasty and won't be so sure whether those bunch of people are my friends . Most people call me anti-social but I am not , say anything you want , spread any rumour , it like I care that much . I had my own reason and so dun pretend that you know anything about me seriously .

Most of the activities , I am participating in , only require me to do things myself ( Archery , Martial arts and weight lifting ) .
But sometimes I still hang out with my friends ( watching movies , soccer and playing pool )

First , just try to ignore what they are saying and dun be angry so easily but if that doesn't work , you have to stand and hold your ground

[MercilessMing]

Mmmm , but problem that if you start fighting , you might get suspended and expell from school , but somehow you gotta learn how to speak up and defend yourself . I once beat a crap out of a guy who physically assault me , all I do was use those move I learn from Aikido ( yep , those really work ) . But since that guy do not know how to fall and defend himself from that attack ( yep , from there , I can see why falling and rolling is vital to our training ) . His back of his head start bleeding and he can't get up . To release all my frustration and anger , I kick him and kick him and kick him until he shut up ( I do not mean dead , just make him shut up and not say anything ) . I got suspended , almost everybody fear me and I hardly had any friend except for those few I had make earlier . Yep and i hate kissing ass .

If you want to fight , better think of the consequences . In this world nothing is perfect , among all your bunch of friends , very few will actually be really good friends to you . That why , I have very few friends but all of whom are very trustworthy . I dun need a bunch of people to make me feel cool and invincible , I need people I can trust and rely on and do not force me against my own freewill .

When for me , when it come to making friends , either you be a very good friends to me , or you dun and let us pretend that we have nv met b4 .

I am not very hasty and won't be so sure whether those bunch of people are my friends . Most people call me anti-social but I am not , say anything you want , spread any rumour , it like I care that much . I had my own reason and so dun pretend that you know anything about me seriously .

Most of the activities , I am participating in , only require me to do things myself ( Archery , Martial arts and weight lifting ) .
But sometimes I still hang out with my friends ( watching movies , soccer and playing pool )

First , just try to ignore what they are saying and dun be angry so easily but if that doesn't work , you have to stand and hold your ground .

I can tell you a few things , all bullies and all of them tend to be coward and losers themselves and they always find way to throw their frustration on someone else who are not scary or not aggressive at all .