sensi : great points. I agree, it's annoying hearing people limit others by telling them what can and can't be done. I agree too that it's more useful to tell people what works than limit them by suggesting something doesn't before they even give it a swing.
however, I also think it's annoying when people are disrespectful and rude in forums dedicated to sharing. telling someone that what they said is "a bunch of crap" is as unnecessary and useless as telling people what DOESN'T work instead of telling them what does. I don't see much difference between the two errrors.
and, just so you know, telling people what works instead of what doesn't only takes you so far in life. If i told you it's good to sit in a hot bath, but neglected to tell you "you don't want it too hot though" (and you didn't know yourself), you might come back badly disfigured from scalding. I agree with your basic gist, however. I think I first read it in vivekenanda. do not tell people what is wrong with them, instead tell them what is right. much depth in the statement.
however, I also think it's annoying when people are disrespectful and rude in forums dedicated to sharing. telling someone that what they said is "a bunch of crap" is as unnecessary and useless as telling people what DOESN'T work instead of telling them what does. I don't see much difference between the two errrors.
and, just so you know, telling people what works instead of what doesn't only takes you so far in life. If i told you it's good to sit in a hot bath, but neglected to tell you "you don't want it too hot though" (and you didn't know yourself), you might come back badly disfigured from scalding. I agree with your basic gist, however. I think I first read it in vivekenanda. do not tell people what is wrong with them, instead tell them what is right. much depth in the statement.
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