scared in real life situations,help!

[brawler01234]

hi there,
look, there is nothing wrong with u. every1 of us faces fear in REAL fights even me when i first started out. it is just all about focus. u see, when you fight, every muscle in your body tenses up and this causes tension, weakness, shivering or to a certain extent, siezures. why? because u are off-balanced, you have no confidence, no experience and because of these factors, you will not be able to concentrate on defending yourself and contantly panic. hence your mind tells you that you cannot win this fight, this is why our body reacts like this. the solution? meditation, keep telling yourself that no enemy is stronger than you, no one can defeat you, believe in your abilities, not the opposition's. train more, train your mind and body to be one. in a fight, focus on 1 spot where from there, you can see all movements executed from your enemy. let your intincts take over and automaticly defend you. it works believe me. finally, try to avoid in involving yourself in these situations for a true warrior has a sword in his tongue and a pair of empty hands. i hope i was able to aid you in this quest of yours.

remember:
He who strikes the first blow sets in motion the pattern of his own destruction: a old ninja saying

[jubaji]

Do you fear proper English?

hi there,
look, there is nothing wrong with u. every1 of us faces fear in REAL fights even me when i first started out.

Whoa, even you?


































Who are you again?

[Middleweight]

hi there,
look, there is nothing wrong with u. every1 of us faces fear in REAL fights even me when i first started out. it is just all about focus. u see, when you fight, every muscle in your body tenses up and this causes tension, weakness, shivering or to a certain extent, siezures. why? because u are off-balanced, you have no confidence, no experience and because of these factors, you will not be able to concentrate on defending yourself and contantly panic. hence your mind tells you that you cannot win this fight, this is why our body reacts like this. the solution? meditation, keep telling yourself that no enemy is stronger than you, no one can defeat you, believe in your abilities, not the opposition's. train more, train your mind and body to be one. in a fight, focus on 1 spot where from there, you can see all movements executed from your enemy. let your intincts take over and automaticly defend you. it works believe me. finally, try to avoid in involving yourself in these situations for a true warrior has a sword in his tongue and a pair of empty hands. i hope i was able to aid you in this quest of yours.

remember:
He who strikes the first blow sets in motion the pattern of his own destruction: a old ninja saying

Street thugs don't care about your philosophy. they are psychos and want to kill you. I'd prefer to land the first (and only blow.

Hope this links to the message

[Middleweight]

i dunno if any1 has put this threat up but anyway help would be appricated,
im gettin above good at martial arts now and as my instrutor says "im way above the standard" and he's 5th dan,so i believe him,its just when it comes tp real life fights i find it hard to concentrate and some times it feels like my limbs start to ache,i no that puts a real funny images of a lad wid wobly limbs in a fight but it true,one more thing even thou this happens i still manage to hit hard and often...im i sum kind of freak wid slow mo powers......yea rite

please reply ,ben

Not enough emphasis is put on re-programming your mental/emotional response to a combat situation. Eg: Bully accuses you of 'What are YOU staring at, man?' Forget the notion he will hear your 'explanation.' He is setting you up. He thinks he can take you. Confusion and fear can sort of freeze you, and you are facing him wide open. At least stand sideways... Do SOMETHING (soon, pl'se)

Trust your training, and it has to take over. A marine or trained soldier can explain this much better than I can. I once used a loud karate yell, before I did what I had to do. All fear left and I sensed I had control. The yell started a whole process. 5 sec later, it's over. It is about control (and staying alive) [ I ran, it worked]

I am not a karateka... Mostly boxing, and some throws, takedowns, one choke and a couple of nasty wrist breakers. About ten moves in all, plus some breakholds. Definitely NOT a wrestler though. Not a street fighter or tough guy either. My Philosophy is if someone is seeking to injure me, I am okay to be dirty as a pit bull with rabies.

[Middleweight]

Originally posted by 7yearsjudoka


It is not that I do not respect your points of view. I have something to learn from everyone on here, and age is of no concern. My point is that you generalized stating that we all need to learn some self-control. Read your post, its pretty condesending and shows a lack of self-control.

I agree with your moms advice on violence. The key is to end the confrontation as quickly as possible. You need everything you have, because there is almost nothing more dangerous than being physically assaulted. The best way to win, is to never underestimate your opponent. "Whatever it takes", nothing more, and nothing less.

Condescending?? This kid makes lots of sense. I, too, am weary of the keyboard warriors who talk about kicking a--. This also indicates they are not trained in much more than watching MMA on the tube

..and for 13, he is ahead of the pack, so cut the kid some slack, k?

[Middleweight]

i have a similar fear that i feel i need to get off my chest. whenever i think about or are in a real fight situation i get this fear that my punches will hvae no effect. I know ic an hit the bag hard but i feel that when a real situation no matter how hard i swing it won't do any damage.

LOL. I used to have a dream like that. Punches had no power.

Then I had to do business with a 220+ lb bully (Me about 160). Parking lot road rage.

The dream was a lie and I needed just one. It was about 2 minutes before he could even stand up. Trust your training.

Oh yeah. Some fear is healthy. Gets you ready.

Before a boxing match, I'd get the butterflies. Sometimes my opponent would wander over to my area and tell me how he was going to break my skull, etc. Once, I just told the guy, 'Hey bub, I'm kinda scared too. See you under the lights.'

[Middleweight]

I hate that dream. It use to annoy me.

But then I had my first Muay Thai fight, and realised that I can hurt someone enough with my fists. I never had that dream again

Me too. Lots of boxing in the ring. That dream kept up until I had to put a guy down in the street. One punch... Dunno who was more surprised, him, or me. Dream never returned.

[Middleweight]

Rather. I need to control my anger. oh well i have about 68 years to work on it.

Hey 'grasshopper'; don't sweat the small stuff. This world has never been short of people who like to tell others what is wrong with them.

OOPS U R 13: Grasshopper: Character in the 70's t.v. series, 'Kung Fu'

[peppi]

Emotions always exist in a real fight. The difference is how much they control you.

[Ben Grimm]

You have to learn to control the adrenaline dump that your body goes through.

[Middleweight]

You have to learn to control the adrenaline dump that your body goes through.

You don't always get that dump. Last time I had to defend in street, I had no adr dump at all. Something else kicked in and I just did what I had to do.

Odd, that... cuz no nerves tremblling after it was done, either.

[Middleweight]

To those of you who are fearing or who do lack power in punches when in real situations,

One of the major things people forget to do is to move. Most arts preach stepping through a punch or at least a twisting in the hips. This is one of the first movements to leave when in a real situation, especially for the young guys. We instead rely on muscle, which isn't good enough. Normally that snap and impact you feel comes from having your weight behind your punch. You are going to notice a sizeable difference between the impact with your arm strenght and with your body weight, which is what you are seeing in real situations. As an aside, many are guilty of this in sparring sessions as well. Too many play "tag" instead of fight.

-Hikage

Also suggest quit watching T.V. Their fights are so phoney. Nobody ever bleeds, and ten hard shots never gets it done. If you are 5-9 and just 150 and have trained just 5 months in a boxing club, you have a HUGE edge over guys who are 200+ and THEY (most of them) cannot hit as hard as YOU can

2 more months and you are hitting with power. MA calls it Chi.

Best to make up your mind before something ever happens that you are going to do what it takes to drop the thug, and do it before he suckers you.

p.s., If you are boxing for 3/4 a year, and are 150 lbs; you can break a guy's nose with the left jab; so never waste that punch

Bruce Lee was less than 150. Sugar Ray Robinson was 155 when he fought Joey Maxim for the LHW title. Joey = 175

[jubaji]

You don't always get that dump. Last time I had to defend in street, I had no adr dump at all. Something else kicked in and I just did what I had to do.

Odd, that... cuz no nerves tremblling after it was done, either.

When you are familiar enough with just about any situation it ceases to overwhelm your body and mind the way it can when it is novel.

[Ben Grimm]

I haven't had the dump in a long time. I guess you get used to it after a while.

[Tant01]

How long is a long time?

I haven't had the dump in a long time. I guess you get used to it after a while.

About 8 years ago for me. I doubt I'll ever get used to having a gun pointed at me....