sparring: experienced grilfreind vs. novice boyfreind

[Ahsen]

I've seen that happen before too... The girlfriend starts kicking the guy's ass so he steps it up a notch, then she gets all whiny when he goes too hard and kicks her ass, even though he's only going like 50%. Or he doesn't give it his all and she thinks she's all bad and can beat him even though she can't. False confidece is dangerous.

I think it depends on the lady, though. One way to kind of feel it out is to train together and see how well that works. And if you want to spar make sure you have clearly established rules (maybe even write them down) beforehand that you both agree on. Plus if you spar her in TKD it's only fair that she spar you in Muay Thai...



No. I lose respect for guys that won't even try because they're afraid of getting hurt, or who are mentally weak, or who lose badly... or win badly for that matter... I guess this goes for women too... I was just training with a female noob the other day and she was all, "Don't hurt me!!!!" though we were practicing this really slow and easy drill that has absolutely no risk potential. I could respect her if she was at least trying to improve instead of making excuses but... Anyway, I have all the respect in the world for a man who's trying to improve his game and clean up his weaknesses and work his ass off. Win or lose. I dated a wrestler who I tapped out once when we were rolling, but he had absolutely no ground game at all. I think he may have been going easy. But anyway, I didn't lose respect for him and I didn't even tell any of his friends.

Having said that, I don't think I could date a man who couldn't beat me at arm wrestling.

how about someone having no knowledge of MA

[treelizard]

how about someone having no knowledge of MA

If I'm looking for something serious i.e. eventually settling down and starting a family, I want to know the guy can protect me and our children. It's kind of hard to change diapers or feed a baby or put them in a baby seat and watch all the entrances for threats at the same time. Hell, it's hard enough to put a basket of laundry in a car and watch what's going on around me at the same time. (Not impossible, though. This isn't about being helpless or dependent.) But what I personally look for is someone who can keep me and any children we have safe. And the onus is on him to prove that is able and willing to do so. Not having any training at all might make me wonder.

Speaking strictly for me, though. I'm sure there's tons of other women looking for a good time or a guy with a lot of money or status or who'll get drunk with them or is a pushover or who their parents will like or something else entirely.

[GranFire]

Where do you live?!

[treelizard]

Where do you live?!

In the ghetto.

j/k

Feels that way sometimes though!

[GranFire]

'splains it.

Sounded like you live in Baghdad or so.

[Tom Yum]

If I'm looking for something serious i.e. eventually settling down and starting a family, I want to know the guy can protect me and our children. It's kind of hard to change diapers or feed a baby or put them in a baby seat and watch all the entrances for threats at the same time. Hell, it's hard enough to put a basket of laundry in a car and watch what's going on around me at the same time. (Not impossible, though. This isn't about being helpless or dependent.) But what I personally look for is someone who can keep me and any children we have safe. And the onus is on him to prove that is able and willing to do so. Not having any training at all might make me wonder.

Speaking strictly for me, though. I'm sure there's tons of other women looking for a good time or a guy with a lot of money or status or who'll get drunk with them or is a pushover or who their parents will like or something else entirely.

Sounds like the words of a mature woman.

I dated a gal years ago whose thesis was the exact opposite. Every time I took a stand against something an obstacle, she'd try to put me down, be demeaning and say 'look at me..I'm a hero' bullsh!t.

Similar thing happened not too long ago as I walked a date back to her car to make sure she got there safely. Some guy was staring into a shop window at his own reflection and starting swinging at it, so I pulled her to the side away from that guy and moved us away.

Rumor got around that I was some kind of a 'cowboy'...